1 Corinthians 13:5
I think at various points in time, we have all had people be rude to us, and nobody ever really comes away from such encounters feeling good. If we’re being honest however, we will see that we also may have been rude to people sometimes. Think back to the times you said/did something rude; what was going on with you? Were you going through something? Where you frustrated? Often times, there is a link between our emotional state and our behavior. Happy people tend to be nicer, angry people tend to be more irritable.
Paul Cohelho said, “how people treat others is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves”. I believe that people who are mean and unkind are often that way because somewhere inside they are hurting. They are usually so frustrated with their lives and circumstances that they take out their irritability on the people around them. They’re hurting, so on some unconscious level they transfer this hurt to other people to try and feel good about themselves.
Different Bible versions have different interpretations of this verse. The KJV says, “love doth not behave itself unseemingly”; the HSCB says, “love…does not act improperly”; AMPC says, “love…is not rude (unmannerly)a and does not act unbecomingly; NIV says, “love…does not dishonor others”.
From the various interpretations, we can see that rudeness has to do with our actions and conduct towards others. “Love is not rude” means that we seek to honor people around us with our attitude, that we do not behave in an unbecoming, dishonorable, and crude manner.
We all feel hurt when people dishonor us with their words and say cruel things to us. Loving others the way we love ourselves means realizing that other people also feel this way, and making a conscious effort to address and act towards people the way we want to be addressed, no matter what we may be going through. It means that, even in the midst of our problems, we give the people around us the same respect and courtesy we demand for ourselves.
As children of God, in all we do and say, we should edify others. Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.”
We will all have bad days. However, even on our worst days, we must remember and obey the words of Jesus, “And as you would like and desire that men would do to you, do exactly so to them.” Luke 6:31 AMPC
Are you often rude to people? Why?