[Love] bears up under anything and everything that comes, it is ever ready to believe the best of you, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening] (1 Cor 13:7, AMPC)
A perfect or fairytale kind of love is one that most of us long and hope for. People spend their lives chasing after the idea of a “happily ever after”, but unfortunately some people do not find it because they keep searching for it in the wrong places. They don’t realize that it isn’t something we search for, it is something we already have, something we’ve always had, something we just need to become conscious of. A popular hymn sung at weddings begins with the line, “O perfect love, all human thoughts transcending…” and of a truth, the concept of a perfect, unconditional love is one that the human mind can never actually fully comprehend (Eph 3:19).
Perfect love is one that looks at you with all your flaws, faults, shortcomings, all the mistakes you made in the past, the ones you’re making now, the ones you’ll make in the future, and says to you, “No matter what, to me you are worth it. I love you, and I will always love you”. .
We have a deep, God-created need for this kind of love and intimacy, but too often we look to people and things that were not designed to meet these needs and elevate them above everything else, making them idols, and the result of this is always heartbreak, bondage, and destruction.
God IS love. He is the embodiment of this “perfect love”. His love for us is so great the even while we hated Him, He was willing to give up everything, empty Himself of divinity, become a man, suffer at our own hands and die a shameful death, all so that we would not have to go through the same, (Rom 5:7-8). He loves us so much that he is constantly looking to draw us closer and closer to Him. It is only in Him that this deep-seated need for love and intimacy can fully be satisfied.
“…Perfect love drives out fear…” (1 John 4:18). There is a sense of freedom we get when we truly realize and understand that we are loved unconditionally. We no longer fear judgement, because at that point we realize that the love isn’t even about what we are doing. It is not dependent on us! It is not something we “earn” or are worthy of, and It is not something we chase. There is nothing we did to get to be loved so deeply, there is nothing we can do that will make us more loved, and nothing can separate us from that love.
With all of this in mind, all that He asks of us is that we love Him in return. Isn’t it really painful when we deeply love someone who doesn’t or can’t love us back? Just as unrequited love breaks our hearts, when we turn away from Him His heart is broken. He is calling us into a deep, amazing, breath taking, real life fairytale love, and all we have to do is say “YES!”