The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “l have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness”
“We accept the love we think we deserve”
I think about this quote a lot. Initially, I thought about it only in terms of romantic love, then I added love among friends as well. Then one day it struck me that, even when it comes to God’s love, we accept the love we think we deserve.
What do I mean? For the longest time, I struggled with the concept of God’s unconditional love. Some days I still struggle with it. I viewed love through the lens of a kind of reward system; “I am loved when I am good”.
So when I’ve been on my best “Christian” behavior I agree that God does love me. I’m deserving of His love. When I slip up though, at the back of my mind I believe I no longer deserve to be loved by Him, so I subconsciously deny it.
As a result of this, I stayed stuck in a place where I kept on trying to be worthy of God’s love for me and let me tell you, it’s an exhausting and draining place to be.
I know I’m not alone in this. A lot of us have been conditioned to view love as a reward for good behavior, so when we’re told that there’s a God who loves us with an everlasting, unconditional love, we don’t really believe and we keep looking for the “catch”.
But do you know what I learned and what I’m still learning? Say it with me: “God’s love for me is not dependent on me”. Pause here. Say it until it sinks in.
This has freed me from the mental prison of trying to earn God’s love. I already have it. There’s literally nothing I can do that will increase the love He has for me. He loves me wholly and perfectly.
I’m learning now to stop relating with Him from a place of fear and apprehension. I’m not in competition with anyone for His love. I’m not trying to bribe Him with my service. The peace this has brought me is overwhelming, and I pray, along with Apostle Paul that,
“…the life of Christ will be released inside you, and the resting place of his love will become the very source and root of your life. Then you will be empowered to discover what every holy one experiences—the great magnitude of the astonishing love of Christ in all its dimensions. How deeply intimate and far-reaching is his love! How enduring and inclusive it is! Endless love beyond measurement that transcends our understanding—this extravagant love pours into you until you are filled to overflowing with the fullness of God!”
Ephesians 3:17-19 TPT
Now, go listen to Cory Asbury’s “Reckless Love”. Read the lyrics. Listen again.
Accept this love 🤗